SF #162 – Positive Aggravation

SF#162 - Positive Aggravation

Can there really be a silver lining when thing after thing after thing after thing doesn’t go your way?  What really is the benefit of that?  Sometimes we as people can be a little thick.  Sometimes we need Shakabuku: “a swift, spiritual kick to the head that alters your reality forever.”  Often, it is only those aggravating things that give us the impetus to pop out of that rut we’ve become oh-so comfortably numb in. Read more »

The Vibrant Alternative – MWTV #350

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You’ve heard me say “Always be learnin’, yo!”  I take this statement seriously.  So much so, that I have currently sought coaching from The Vibrant Alternative’s very own Brandi Adair.  This quick vlog, springs forth from the end of my first session with her – and I am so excited for more that I decided to share my exuberance with you.  Enjoy! Read more »

SF #161 – Perseverance Prevails

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You’ve been working on a project…or chasing down a dream…or struggling with a relationship, and things are not going so well.  Seems like it’s time to quit wasting your blood, sweat, and tears and throw in the towel.  Or, is it?  What if success awaits, dancing teasingly, tauntingly beyond your grasp – testing your mettle and waiting to see if you are willing to tough out the rough spots.  Will you?  More than talent and skill, luck and magic, Perseverance Prevails. Read more »

SF #160 – Those Voices in your Head

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“Sign, sign, everywhere a sign.…” ~Five Man Electrical Band~

What can you do when you have the chatter of differing opinions going off in your head?  Which should you listen to?  How can you tell which is right and which is wrong?  Are they signposts directing you this way or that?  And, what can you do when they are so loud you can’t discern the call of common sense?

Mordant & McFall volley back and forth about the ramifications of listening to one of the voices and making a choice – even when you’re not 100% sure it’s the best one.  Remember, if you’re not happy with the outcome, you can always go back and switch things out.  “It’s not broke until you can’t fix it.” ~Rhonni Rocks~ Read more »

SF #159 – Get Caught Having A Great Life

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Ever have one of those breakups?  With a special someone?  A favorite job?  The way you thought your life should be going?  Though over, there is still that spark, that chance that everything might get back to normal.  So you try stifling your sniffling in the hopes that the waiting game you’re playing might pay off.  Instead of postponing the inevitable and hoping against hope that your special someone/career-path/life-choice will realize their mistake and come to their senses, wouldn’t it be a better idea to move on with being awesome and…

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Success Freaks #158 – Forgiveness versus Guilt

Success Freaks #158 - Forgiveness versus Guilt

“The Key to greater Willpower is being more Forgiving – not being harder on yourself.”  “Self-control strategies like Guilt and Self-Criticism can result in our feeling worse.”  We need to give those up if we hope to succeed.

Chapter Six (and the rest) of Kelly McGonigal’s The Willpower Instinct is full of liberating gems such as these.  Necessary Words of Wisdom when we grow up believing we’re not going to get anything done, let alone keep our promises and resolutions, if we’re not at least a little hard on ourselves.  Studies show this belief does not hold up in practical application. Read more »

Forgiveness versus Guilt – MWTV #349

MWTV #349 - Forgiveness versus Guilt

Having just finished “Success Freaks” podcast #158, “Forgiveness versus Guilt,” I begin this vlog showing you my latest podcast setup — this one incorporating the use of my ASUS tablet. I then launch into a conversation concerning one of the topics covered in Chapter Six of Kelly McGonigal’s book, “The Willpower Instinct.” If you’ve ever tripped up while attempting to quit a bad habit and been really hard on yourself, that chapter and this vlog are for you. Studies have shown that forgiveness wins out over guilt and self-criticism every time. To be successful in whatever you are trying to accomplish, you have to cut yourself some slack when you stumble. In other words, check yourself before you wreck yourself.

While you’re at it, give a listen to episode SF #158: “Forgiveness versus Guilt.” (audio up by 2014.07.23)

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Success Freaks #157 – Dealing With Your Poop

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Ignore your problems long enough and they begin to pile up.  Shove that ever-growing pile into an unmarked closet, bury it in the backyard, ‘neath the septic tank, or try flushing excessive amounts of it down the toilet and bad things begin to happen.  Very bad things.  Very bad, stinky things.

Using the age-old metaphor of Mordant rents travel trailer…Mordant finds potty-full trailer has leaky sewage hose…Mordant is forced to deal with the aggregation of his fecal matter, your Success Freaks discuss what happens when you engage in avoidance behavior until the proverbial poop hits your wind-puffing apparatus.

Join Mordant & McFall as they wax skatalogical in their discussion about why it is best to deal with your daily dose of dooky as it comes.  Waiting only gives whatever it is you have to deal with the opportunity to grow, fester, and perhaps even explode all over your whitewashed world. Read more »

Success Freaks #156 – World Cup – World Community

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Goooooooaaaaal!!!  With World Cup 2014 scratching the edge of our consciousness, thoughts of what it means to be a part of a global community arise.  What about those people halfway ‘round the world?  Are they really that different from the people in your community?  And, what about your community?  What can you do to get to know the same, enjoy the different, and remove fear of the unknown?

In this episode, Mordant & McFall joke, rant, ramble, and chat about the World Cup, community awareness, mob and gang involvement, and getting to know vastly different people who are, deep down, just like you.  Tune in and expand your horizons, expose yourself to new lands, and make new friends while you’re at it. Read more »

Success Freaks #155 – Change In the Now

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With Special Guest Bishop Jim Swilley

With so many Changes happening day-to-day, it’s difficult to keep up with what’s going on in your life – let alone everyone else’s.  What happens when the dream you once held so tightly onto morphs into…something else?  What if it’s worse?  What if it’s better?  What if it works out, but it looks nothing like what you were hoping/praying/longing for it to be?  How can you divorce yourself from the goals you’ve been married to for so long?  Doesn’t that mean turning your back on everything you’ve been standing for?  Won’t that make you…a failure!?

Mordant & McFall invite Bish In the Now & Metron’s own Jim Swilley back to Success Freaks for a candid discussion about what it means to maintain an attitude of non-attachment.  By advancing to the rear (or left or right), you finally relax that chokehold you’ve have on the way you thought things should turn out.  Instead, you  achieve your success by adapting, bending like reed, and Rolling with the Changes. Read more »